How can I start doing homework I really don't want to do?" (4th Grader, Tokyo)
Doing It With Friends Makes It Easier!
I know exactly how you feel! I also have a habit of putting off things I don't want to do.
In your case, why don't you want to do your homework? Is it because you don't see the point of it? Or maybe it's just a huge pain? There could be lots of reasons, but in the end, nothing will get done unless you actually start.
When you have to do something you really don't want to do, the most important thing is to give yourself a little "push" to get started. I think there are two ways to get that push: The first way is something you can do by yourself, and for the second way, you can give yourself that push with others.
A good way to give yourself that push by yourself is to take a notebook and spend 10 minutes writing down exactly why you don't want to do your homework. Doing this helps clear your head and sort out your feelings. Once your feelings are sorted, it becomes a lot easier to stop putting things off and actually get to work.
A good way to get that push with someone else is to do that annoying homework together! Every Tuesday and Friday, I get on a video call with a friend so we can work on writing our big papers at the same time. When you tackle something you don't want to do with a friend, it feels like you have a sidekick, and it makes the whole thing a bit easier.
I highly recommend giving it a try!
やりたくない宿題を始めるにはどうしたらいいですか？（東京都・小4）
友だちとやると楽に
とても共感できる質問だ！ 私もやりたくないことを先延ばしにしてしまうクセがある。君の場合、その宿題はどうしてしたくないのだろう？ 宿題をする意味を見いだせないからかな？ それともめんどうくさいから？ 理由はいろいろあるだろうけれど、最終的には行動に移さないと何も起こらない。やりたくないことをするには、行動に移すきっかけを作るのが大事だ。きっかけ作りには、１人でできることと他の人とできることがあると思う。
１人でできるきっかけ作りは「なぜ宿題をしたくないのか」について10分間ノートに書くこと。こうすると気持ちの整理になり、先延ばしにしていたことを行動に移しやすくなる。
他の人とできるきっかけ作りは、一緒にやりたくない宿題をすること。私は毎週火曜と金曜にオンラインで友人と会議をして、論文を書く。友達といっしょにやりたくないことをすると、相棒ができたみたいで少し楽になる。オススメだ。